A New Year

by Dr Peggy on January 9, 2012

There is always so much talk about New Year’s Resolutions and we break most of them within hours after we make them. Just what does that say about us? I suspect only that we are human. It seems like a good idea to reflect on why we make New Year’s Resolutions, and then maybe we can figure out why we break them.

Why we make them

Almost all of us have a great desire to do better. We want to improve our lives, be thinner, be nicer, care more. The desire is sincere. The wanting it to be different is what drives so many New Years Resolutions. As much as I hesitate to point this out, we did spend a whole bunch of time last year talking about living in the present. Much of what drives us to make New Years Resolutions is our inability to do just that.

Here and now is nice and everything, but there must be somewhere, sometime that will be better, nicer, richer, happier or whatever. The biggest problem we have is our inability to stop and look at what we have right not – where we are right now – and who is next to us right now. Maybe we would be better off if our New Year’s Resolution would be to be thankful for what we have and where we are right this minute.

Why we Break Them

So – we are driven to make New Year’s Resolutions. Why are we driven to break them? If we think about it, the reason is basically the same. With our drive to be better in the future than we have been in the past we have totally neglected to see the NOW. But now definitely catches up with us. While we want to be thinner or nicer or whatever, all of the things in the present that get in our way of making that happen haven’t gone away. They are still there, staring us in the face (like that wonderful cake at my recent family baptism). Until we stay in the present in order to appreciate what we have and learn how to change what we don’t like, the future we want is only a dream.

To become different we have to embrace who we are now. A little bit of irony.

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Enjoy your Thanksgiving Dinner

by Dr Peggy on November 18, 2011

Here are Underdue Social Services, lots of emails come around during the holidays with great information. Here is one to share with all of you. It’s a bit of really good advice for Thanksgiving Dinner.

Apr 26, 2011 | By B. Lynn

Ms. Lynn is an educator and freelance writer living in Pennsylvania. She has been writing professionally for three years and is a graduate of the Institute for Children’s Literature. She writes for many niches including education, health, and beauty. You can contact her at b.lynn10@hotmail.com.

Thanksgiving is all about giving gratitude for everything you have and appreciating the people in your life. Families come together to celebrate each other, give thanks and have a big feast together. Traditional Thanksgiving meal favorites are turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy, sweet potato pie, pumpkin pie, rolls and alcohol. Thanksgiving dinner can easily spoil a diet or just leave you feeling stuffed, bloated and unable to partake in the merriment of the holidays. Thanksgiving also marks the beginning of the holiday season, so overeating on this day can set you on course to gain excess weight throughout the next month or two.

Step 1

Eat a healthy, sensible breakfast and lunch. Many people choose to starve themselves through the day so they can have more room for the scrumptious meal. This will lead to binge eating. Instead, have a small, healthy breakfast and lunch. Drink water throughout the day to keep you from overeating or consuming empty calories from soda or alcohol. This will help you feel more satisfied so you won’t overeat at dinner.

Step 2

Chew your meal slowly. Thanksgiving is the ideal time to sit down, eat your meal slowly and relish every bite. You will feel fuller faster, which will help you avoid overeating. Food is a wonderful part of Thanksgiving, but so is spending time with family and friends. Put down the fork for a few minutes, join the conversation, and you will eat less without noticing it.

Step 3

Use smaller plates. Depending on where you go for Thanksgiving it may be impossible, but if you are the host or your family doesn’t mind, consider grabbing a smaller plate for your meal. You will feel like you are eating more than your actually are and will be less likely to overeat.

Step 4

Create a tiny, portioned smorgasbord. Between all of the delectable food, your great aunt asking if you tried her pie yet, and all of the goodies being passed your way, it is easy to be tempted to eat everything. Instead of having a big meal of turkey and potatoes and then trying everything else on top of it, have a little bit of everything. On most days, you should try to eat more vegetables and fruits than anything else, but on Thanksgiving, make your goal to avoid overeating. Allow yourself a spoonful or two of everything you love, pass over what you don’t. You will end up feeling satisfied and will get to try everything you want without stuffing yourself silly.

Article reviewed by Elizabeth Ahders Last updated on: Apr 26, 2011

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Present Moment 3: Making Memories

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Living in the Present

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How to Talk to your child about sexual abuse.

August 18, 2011

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Teen Talk – Ten Tips

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Summer Pause

July 13, 2011

Even in the summer we still keep working for kids and families. However, we also try to take care or ourselves as well. In our latest July News we talk about everything going on at Underdue Social Services right now. You can see that work for children and families never stops. But in this post [...]

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Not Another Blog!

June 18, 2011

There are over 156 million public blogs on the Internet as of February of 2011. When searching for blog posts or comments on parenting I got 95,000 links to posts or messages (I got 150,000 when I searched for teens). You have to be asking yourself – “Who are you and why are writing this [...]

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